Commitment and Communication

I have been thinking to pen this as a sequential to my prior article on true love. I wanted to incorporate all this into my first article, but was worried of boring everyone! But since I have a lot of comments to it, published/unpublished and talk with friends, I decided to put it down to take it further.

The question "True Love or Arranged Love" still exists as hard as a million dollar question! Lots of different comments and thoughts put forth, but I believe all that matters is communication and commitment for any relationship to be strong. So be it with your parents, siblings, friends, spouse; these 2 C's will make it the best situation possible. This is what I see in the picture of a heart, 2 C's clubbed together. Maybe some would like to put compromise as another 'C', but I would rather see it as accommodating. When you learn to accommodate the other person's needs, it won't seem as a compromise or sacrifice.

Making a relationship work is not about bravery or cowardice, it is all about understanding. If you feel that you have met the right person, then it takes commitment to stay in the relation. It is also important that you voice out your feelings in a controlled manner so as to not hurt the ones you love. This simply means that there might be times when you face opposition from your spouse/parents, but just handling the situation right is the key to make things work for you the way you want. Anger and frustration are key destroyers for this, and trust me it is easier to get annoyed and walk away than stay and talk! I am trying to condition myself to be away from these 2 things and it is lot of hard work! Continuing to the comment left on my previous post, it said that one can be torn apart in choosing between relations, and is one of the hardest things to do. All I can say is doing what you think is right; in the long run this is what matters, else all fades out.

Of course I do agree that destiny plays an important role in this despite all our humanly efforts! But moving ahead with decisions that you make for your life can be more gratifying for your conscience. Be it something good or bad that did not work out, you can be content that you are an enduring personality and have no regrets about it in the future, because regret can do more harm than good.

After reading my first part Karthik, a friend of mine told me that I mostly wrote about the cons of an arranged marriage. But the point I want to actually make is not an inclination to arranged/love marriages. It is about knowing what you want in your life, to make it happier for you and others, because when you are happy, it exudes out of you and you can make a difference to this world as a person. And this world needs more productive people; looks like I just found another post for my blog!

Be certain of what you want out of your life, there is nothing stopping you in achieving it! :-)

Spirit still exists!

I'm back now after a really long break! I guess I was caught up with things in my life, that I could not think of writing anything concrete! For now here is my piece of thot on friendship. I think I could apply for any relationship too...

Friendship- Reasons or Seasons?

A Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime....

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person. When someone is in your life for a REASON . . . It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically,emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like God sent, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realise is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON . . .Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

This is an original write up by Jean Domnique Martin, which was sent to me by a good friend. We all would have had stages in our lives where this is pertinent. We have friends who come and go; sometimes we are sad as to why we spaced out. When we learn to see these situations in the right perspective, it becomes comforting to cope and not brood over the past. However this is easier said than done; to accept this takes a lot more audacity.

Think about the people in your life at present, are they for a reason, season or a lifetime? If you believe that they are for a lifetime, work towards strengthening it. Bottom line is cherish what friendships and relationships you have, because everything happens for a reason.... so that you grow better as a person.