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True Love or Arranged Love?

This I guess is the most hot topic for any discussion! Screams for attention! ;-)

I was thinking about the text for my next blog, meeting a couple of friends lead me to this. As we were talking about college and friends etc.. we brushed upon this and man got into a hot discussion after that! It got us thinking, what is more important for a marriage to happen, is it love or circumstances?

As most of the time it happens in our country, marriages are "arranged". Boy meets girl, talk for a couple of months, family gets together and BOOM you are married, have kids and never ever have the time to realize what happened! Well I must admit this has worked well for a good number of people, but not so well for a smaller number. The situation here is totally based on chance, parents see the family, values etc and decide if it would be a "fit into their family". I do agree on the fact that these are important, but do you marry someone, because they fit for your situation, or because parental support is there for the relationship? Or do you marry someone YOU think you can lead a good life with? What is important here, love or situation? Sometimes circumstances bias us in making decisions. We assume that if someone fits into our present status and our plans, we would naturally be inclined to go for it, after all no one wants their plans to be changed!! But thinking this would be the best may not always be right.

People who are unsure about themselves, look for a rope to cling on. But in a marriage, YOU and your partner are the ones responsible for whatever happens, no blame game works here. The emphasis is, we all need the support of our elders, to guide us through, after all they have seen more of life and have greater experience, and also we are responsible for our lives, we need to strike a balance and go for the best!

Here's a food for thought, think about this.. If you ask anyone who's had an arranged marriage, if they would have gone ahead with the same partner, if they had met on their own, or there was parental resistance, a large percentage would answer Maybe or even a No!!!! A smaller cluster may say a yes indecisively, after all they wouldn't want to have a fight with their partner now and also their ego!!! ;-) The rest who say a yes strongly are truly the ones who know what they want out of their life. I guess I'm gonna write more about commitmment as a continuation to this, by popular demand! ;-)

So all you people, when you are plunging into the big commitment, think twice and be sure of it! And ask yourself the question, whether you are plunging into an arranged or love marriage, is he/she truly the one for you, or are you biased by the situation? Think about it.... Stand up for yourself and your partner and make a beautiful life together... because Love makes Life Beautiful!